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About Terry Real &
The Relational Life Institute


Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker, and Author.

Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher for more than twenty-five years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner, 1997), the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner, 2002), and most recently, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work (Random House). Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy — and greater personal fulfillment.

A  senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men, parents and non-parents, to help them create the connection they desire in their relationships.

Terry's work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men's issues and on couple's therapy have been celebrated in venues from Good Morning America, The Today Show, and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times.

A proponent of "full-throttle marriage," as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called" the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today."

Terry's Relational Life Institute grew out of his extensive and empathic experience. He teaches people how to make their relationships work by providing products and services designed to teach the principles of Relational Life™ so that everyone can enjoy "full respect living" and craft a healthy life legacy.


The Relational Life Institute is dedicated to teaching the general public how to live relational lives and to teaching mental health professionals the practice of Relational Life Therapy (RTL). The RLI uses the work of Terry Real to advance relational and psychological health in three critical relationship domains: parenting, coupling, and workforce effectiveness. The institute offers workshops and professional training around the country as well as support services, coaching, books, CDs, and other products.


Nikki Loscalzo, Ed. M. trained directly with Terry Real and is certified in Relational Life Therapy through Terry Real's Relational Life Institute. To read more about Nikki Loscalzo and her practice, click on the button below.   

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You Deserve a Cherishing Relationship

The relationship you wish for is possible, but sometimes skills and tools aren’t enough to get you there. Most of us have times in our lives when we need help to rebuild the passion and connection in our relationships.

If this is where you are - reach out. I can help.

Contact me today for a twenty-minute free phone consultation or to set up an initial ninety-minute session.

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"The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships."

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