Anger & Resentment
Healing the Damage that Destroys Intimate Connection
Unfortunately, few of us come into our relationships knowing how to strongly and lovingly ask our partners for what we want and need. Most of us ride the wave of our emotions and reactions, allowing the rawest parts of ourselves to take control during difficult and sensitive moments. We default to our “Losing Strategies” venting our emotions at our partners, arguing with our partners about events, trying to “get” our partners to behave differently, being passive-aggressive,
or just giving up and shutting down.
"Resentment is a seeping poison that will quietly eat away the love, appreciation, and joy that make a relationship worthwhile."
- Nikki Loscalzo
Over time, these reactions make certain topics and issues feel impossibly loaded, leaving couples in a state where they either avoid an issue entirely or blow up about it. Either way, these behaviors foster disconnection, anger, resentment, turmoil, and pain in the relationship instead of authenticity, intimacy, understanding, and growth.
We’re left feeling disconnected, hurt, misunderstood, angry, resentful, and disappointed, and over time our relationships become less intimate, less cherishing, and not much fun. We start to blame our partners and to question our relationships with them. We mistakenly believe that if we had the “right” partner, or if our partners were a “better” version of themself, or like they “used to be” that these ruptures wouldn’t occur.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
You can heal the damage and build a truly intimate, connected, and cherishing relationship.
If you want to heal the damage that gets in the way of intimate connection, I’d love to help you get there. Reach out. I can help.
The relationship you wish for is possible, but sometimes skills and tools aren’t enough to get you there. Most of us have times in our lives when we need help to rebuild the passion and connection in our relationships. If this is where you are - reach out. I can help.
You Don't Have To Settle
The relationship you wish for is possible, but sometimes skills and tools aren’t enough to get you there. Most of us have times in our lives when we need help to rebuild the passion and connection in our relationships.
If this is where you are - reach out. I can help.
Contact me today for a twenty-minute free phone consultation or to set up an initial ninety-minute session.